In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the frustrating cycle of dating after narcissistic abuse and repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, even after doing extensive healing work. If you’ve found yourself wondering, “Why am I back here again?” after leaving a narcissistic partner, this episode is for you.

1. The Conundrum of Doing All the Right Things to Heal But Repeating Dysfunctional Patterns

• • Why traditional healing methods sometimes fall short
  • The hidden psychological traps that keep us stuck
  • How our brain’s ‘relationship blueprint’ can sabotage our efforts
  • The importance of addressing core wounds beyond surface-level healing

2. Your Own Control Issues and How They Fuel Dysfunctional Dating Patterns 

• • Recognizing control as a coping mechanism for past trauma
  • How the illusion of control attracts us to familiar, yet unhealthy dynamics
  • The paradox of control: seeking it in relationships while feeling out of control
  • Practical steps to loosen the grip of control and embrace vulnerability

3. How Your Abandonment Anxiety Fuels Your Love Life Choices

• • Understanding the roots of abandonment anxiety
  • The unconscious ways we ‘test’ potential partners
  • How fear of being alone can lead us to settle for less
  • Techniques for healing abandonment wounds and building self-reliance

4. The Importance of Self Fulfillment and Being Fully in Love With Your Own Life

• • Why self-love isn’t just a cliché, but a crucial foundation for healthy relationships
  • How to build a life you’re excited about outside of romantic partnerships
  • The magnetic effect of genuine self-fulfillment on attracting healthy partners